We live in a world of broken promises, broken marriages and broken homes.
It’s a world of never ending problems, filled with people who have lost their jobs because of peer jealousy and people who have been cheated out of their life’s savings.
It’s a world filled with children estranged from their parents and parents estranged from their children. It’s a world filled with families whose members don’t even speak to each other anymore, and close friends who have drifted apart.
Invariably, all the cruelty and meanness done to us leads us to anger and hatred, towards our tormentors. It leads us to bitterness, frustration and sleepless nights. Eventually, it leads to ulcers, high blood pressure, migraines, cancer, and lots more.
Modern psychology and medical research has proved, beyond any doubt, that most sickness in man is due to broken relationships. Painful memories and thoughts destroy us and make us sick. So does rejection and hurtful words from our family, friends and colleagues.
Scientists and researchers tell us that there are numerous health hazards associated with anger, hatred and bitterness. They say it increases blood pressure and leads to hormonal changes which eventually result in cardiovascular disease, immune suppression, and possibly, impaired neurological function and memory loss.
There is a close relationship between emotions and disease. It is a fact that 90% of diseases are pneumo-psychosomatic. So, although we run to doctors and hospitals, and spend loads of money, we get no relief. We have to realize that the only real cure for our malady is total forgiveness of our perceived tormentors.
Forgive my tormentors? Yes, for this is the only way to release them from your life and set yourself free. It’s not easy to forgive people who have hurt you and caused you so much pain, but it’s possible if we focus on Jesus Christ hanging on the cross at Golgotha.
What happened that day was unforgivable, but no finer, purer or better example of forgiveness can you find than Jesus, hanging on the cross, close to death, praying to His Father in heaven to forgive the very people who were putting Him to death!
Condemned to death by these evil men who wanted Him dead, convicted by lying witnesses who testified falsely against Him, Jesus looked down on the mob who were taunting, mocking, jeering and cheering His sufferings, and the only truly innocent and sinless man who ever walked this sinful earth, uttered words that still melt the hardened hearts of sinners: “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Lk 23 : 34).
These dozen words still ring across 2,000 years, and shatter into smithereens all our lame excuses for not forgiving those who ill-treat us and hurt us, for continuing to carry our burdens of bitterness, anger, and our desire for vengeance.
Yes, forgiveness is never easy. But, it becomes easier when we realize that forgiveness is not about us, and it’s not about those who hurt us. Forgiveness is all about God.
Jesus said, “If you forgive others the wrongs they have done you, your Father in heaven will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive the wrongs you have done” (Matt 6 : 14 – 15). Then He went ahead and put into practice what He had preached, on the cross at Golgotha.
Your forgiveness doesn’t depend on the person who you wish to forgive. You don’t need their permission to forgive them. You neither need their approval nor their agreement that they were wrong.
“God said there’s a seed that’s been planted in your heart. You either hate and be angry, or you forgive. I said I have to forgive.”
Today, we live in a world of plastic cards, especially Credit cards and ATM cards. When we need money we go to the Automatic Teller Machine and withdraw what we need. We have instant money in our hands. That’s why we call them Any Time Money cards.
But, few of us know that in our hearts we have an automatic dispensing machine, too, and it responds only to our Any Time Mercy card. So, choose forgiveness in your heart, flash your Any Time Mercy card, forgive your tormentors, and move on to a healthy and stress-free life.
Most of us never reach of level of accomplishment that we dream of, mainly because of “small” thinking. Thinking big requires thick skin. If your plans are significant, plenty of people will do and say little things that can be discouraging. The biggest achievers have to face this challenge all the time. Learn to ignore it or consider keeping your plans to yourself. If you want to think big, try these tips: 1. Consider what will happen if you don’t think big. You’ll regret the things you didn’t do far more than the things that didn’t work out. So take a few minutes and imagine how you’ll feel if you never even try. Think about how you’ll feel 10 years from now. Sometimes pain is the greatest motivator. How much pain will you feel if you don’t take action today? 2. Be brave enough to let your creativity shine. You’re more creative than you realize. Just watch a child play by himself. You still have that ability to create with your mind. But if you’re like most adults, you’ve learned to stifle or ignore it. It might be your greatest strength. Let it out. 3. Stretch beyond your comfort zone. If you’re not making yourself at least a little uncomfortable, you’re not thinking big. If something seems comfortable to you, you’re probably already doing it. If you’re already doing it, it’s not going to take you to the next level. * Learning to deal with discomfort is an important part of achieving anything new. If you have enough motivation, anything is possible. Learning to lower your discomfort through healthy means is a valuable skill. 4. It’s easier than it has ever been. The Internet and other forms of mass communication have made it easier to go global than ever before. All that’s required is success on a local level. That success can then be propagated to other places. Think about how difficult it would’ve been to spread your ideas to other countries 50 years ago. 5. Use your emotions as a guide. You’ll know you’re on to something when you’re overwhelmed with positive emotion. Keep thinking big until you come up with an idea that truly moves you. Then keep thinking and see if you can come up with something even better. * If you’re like most adults, you’ve become too logical and practical. But you have more capability to do the things that truly excite you than you realize. What do you really want to do? What excites you? 6. Spend time each day thinking big thoughts. Make it a habit to spend a few minutes each day coming up with great ideas. If you already have your great idea, spend the time developing ways to make it a reality. Keep improving your plan. * Make it a part of your daily routine. One possibility is to go to bed earlier and spend 30 minutes letting your imagination run wild before you sleep. Most of us think too small. We underestimate ourselves. We worry about failure. We worry about being too successful. But the world needs your big ideas, and you must think big to realize your ultimate potential for your own sake, too. Think big and have a life that’s exciting and fruitful. Think big and you’ll reach the end of your life free of regrets.
If you find yourself living in constant doubt and fear to the extent that you cannot move forward in life, you’re not alone. Many people are overcome by timidity. This can lead to a life of mediocrity, if you let it. You don’t have to be cocky or self-confident to achieve great things in life. Simply learn a little more about how to be sure of your own purpose in life.
Your abilities and potential are not opinions; they’re facts. As we are all in some ways unique and in other ways similar, we each have potentials that can be continually developed into a set of abilities.
As you were created to use and thus develop your own abilities, you need not worry about measuring your worth by how far along you are. Instead, you should focus on how you can use whatever you have to benefit the people around you. It is not how good you are at doing things that will bring you joy; it is how well you use the abilities you have to help others that will be reflected in how much joy you experience.
Question Yourself to Know Yourself
If you don’t already know what it is you can enjoying doing with your life, you need to ask yourself some questions in order to take a personal inventory of your interests and abilities. If you don’t already know the answers to these questions, you need to explore them more deeply in order to know your purpose.
1. If failure were impossible, what great thing would you set out to do?
2. What have you daydreamed about doing with your life? What did you want to be in your youth? What have you always care about or had an interest in doing?
3. What do others think you’re good at doing? Are you confident of any of the things you’ve been praised for in the past?
4. What do you look forward to doing? What are your hobbies?
5. Are there certain things you want to be able to do better? Can you map a path of steps to be taken that will help you get better? Can anyone else help you get better?
When you can answer all of these questions, you should have a pretty good idea of the general direction of your life. Your purpose is not some sort of idealized fantasy but a general pathway that has been laid out for you by your own features. There is no need to fall into self-doubt, as you must simply move along that pathway, led by your developing abilities.
Act in Good Faith
Doubt is an emotion. It can creep up on you without a good reason. Everyone experiences doubt at various times. Success is sometimes simply a matter of ignoring doubt. You know what your skills are and you know what you want to do, so act on those skills and let the doubt resolve itself. The way you carry yourself forward with your purpose will inspire yourself and those around you.
Consider carefully how those who inspire you by their own purposes and mimic them. How do they pace their speaking? How loudly do they speak? What types of posture and movement do they exhibit when walking or talking? Doubt will eventually be denied simply by pushing forward in a purposeful manner.
Set Yourself Up with a Mentor
Find someone you admire that either has some similar abilities or a similar purpose. Model those things you admire. Allow yourself to make mistakes as a part of the process of getting better. The greatest success will generally be had if you can enlist the person you admire in the process as your mentor. You may have to swallow your pride to ask this of another person, but surprisingly few people can say no to an admirer.
The benefit of a mentor over simply someone you admire is that a mentor is available to answer questions you have and to give you insights into the approaches taken to get things done. Often just being able to ask procedural questions of a mentor will greatly cut down on your learning curve. Being able to understand what your mentor is thinking when making decisions allows you to benefit from your mentor’s experience. If nothing else, you’ll spend less time questioning your purpose and more time living by it because you have someone to guide you.
Being sure of your purpose is a necessary step to living confidently. When you know yourself, act upon what you know, and get guidance from others, you will be able to overcome any doubts and achieve what you were created to achieve.