We live in a world of broken promises, broken marriages and broken homes.
It’s a world of never ending problems, filled with people who have lost their jobs because of peer jealousy and people who have been cheated out of their life’s savings.
It’s a world filled with children estranged from their parents and parents estranged from their children. It’s a world filled with families whose members don’t even speak to each other anymore, and close friends who have drifted apart.
Invariably, all the cruelty and meanness done to us leads us to anger and hatred, towards our tormentors. It leads us to bitterness, frustration and sleepless nights. Eventually, it leads to ulcers, high blood pressure, migraines, cancer, and lots more.
Modern psychology and medical research has proved, beyond any doubt, that most sickness in man is due to broken relationships. Painful memories and thoughts destroy us and make us sick. So does rejection and hurtful words from our family, friends and colleagues.
Scientists and researchers tell us that there are numerous health hazards associated with anger, hatred and bitterness. They say it increases blood pressure and leads to hormonal changes which eventually result in cardiovascular disease, immune suppression, and possibly, impaired neurological function and memory loss.
There is a close relationship between emotions and disease. It is a fact that 90% of diseases are pneumo-psychosomatic. So, although we run to doctors and hospitals, and spend loads of money, we get no relief. We have to realize that the only real cure for our malady is total forgiveness of our perceived tormentors.
Forgive my tormentors? Yes, for this is the only way to release them from your life and set yourself free. It’s not easy to forgive people who have hurt you and caused you so much pain, but it’s possible if we focus on Jesus Christ hanging on the cross at Golgotha.
What happened that day was unforgivable, but no finer, purer or better example of forgiveness can you find than Jesus, hanging on the cross, close to death, praying to His Father in heaven to forgive the very people who were putting Him to death!
Condemned to death by these evil men who wanted Him dead, convicted by lying witnesses who testified falsely against Him, Jesus looked down on the mob who were taunting, mocking, jeering and cheering His sufferings, and the only truly innocent and sinless man who ever walked this sinful earth, uttered words that still melt the hardened hearts of sinners: “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Lk 23 : 34).
These dozen words still ring across 2,000 years, and shatter into smithereens all our lame excuses for not forgiving those who ill-treat us and hurt us, for continuing to carry our burdens of bitterness, anger, and our desire for vengeance.
Yes, forgiveness is never easy. But, it becomes easier when we realize that forgiveness is not about us, and it’s not about those who hurt us. Forgiveness is all about God.
Jesus said, “If you forgive others the wrongs they have done you, your Father in heaven will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive the wrongs you have done” (Matt 6 : 14 – 15). Then He went ahead and put into practice what He had preached, on the cross at Golgotha.
Your forgiveness doesn’t depend on the person who you wish to forgive. You don’t need their permission to forgive them. You neither need their approval nor their agreement that they were wrong.
“God said there’s a seed that’s been planted in your heart. You either hate and be angry, or you forgive. I said I have to forgive.”
Today, we live in a world of plastic cards, especially Credit cards and ATM cards. When we need money we go to the Automatic Teller Machine and withdraw what we need. We have instant money in our hands. That’s why we call them Any Time Money cards.
But, few of us know that in our hearts we have an automatic dispensing machine, too, and it responds only to our Any Time Mercy card. So, choose forgiveness in your heart, flash your Any Time Mercy card, forgive your tormentors, and move on to a healthy and stress-free life.
Most of us never reach of level of accomplishment that we dream of, mainly because of “small” thinking. Thinking big requires thick skin. If your plans are significant, plenty of people will do and say little things that can be discouraging. The biggest achievers have to face this challenge all the time. Learn to ignore it or consider keeping your plans to yourself. If you want to think big, try these tips: 1. Consider what will happen if you don’t think big. You’ll regret the things you didn’t do far more than the things that didn’t work out. So take a few minutes and imagine how you’ll feel if you never even try. Think about how you’ll feel 10 years from now. Sometimes pain is the greatest motivator. How much pain will you feel if you don’t take action today? 2. Be brave enough to let your creativity shine. You’re more creative than you realize. Just watch a child play by himself. You still have that ability to create with your mind. But if you’re like most adults, you’ve learned to stifle or ignore it. It might be your greatest strength. Let it out. 3. Stretch beyond your comfort zone. If you’re not making yourself at least a little uncomfortable, you’re not thinking big. If something seems comfortable to you, you’re probably already doing it. If you’re already doing it, it’s not going to take you to the next level. * Learning to deal with discomfort is an important part of achieving anything new. If you have enough motivation, anything is possible. Learning to lower your discomfort through healthy means is a valuable skill. 4. It’s easier than it has ever been. The Internet and other forms of mass communication have made it easier to go global than ever before. All that’s required is success on a local level. That success can then be propagated to other places. Think about how difficult it would’ve been to spread your ideas to other countries 50 years ago. 5. Use your emotions as a guide. You’ll know you’re on to something when you’re overwhelmed with positive emotion. Keep thinking big until you come up with an idea that truly moves you. Then keep thinking and see if you can come up with something even better. * If you’re like most adults, you’ve become too logical and practical. But you have more capability to do the things that truly excite you than you realize. What do you really want to do? What excites you? 6. Spend time each day thinking big thoughts. Make it a habit to spend a few minutes each day coming up with great ideas. If you already have your great idea, spend the time developing ways to make it a reality. Keep improving your plan. * Make it a part of your daily routine. One possibility is to go to bed earlier and spend 30 minutes letting your imagination run wild before you sleep. Most of us think too small. We underestimate ourselves. We worry about failure. We worry about being too successful. But the world needs your big ideas, and you must think big to realize your ultimate potential for your own sake, too. Think big and have a life that’s exciting and fruitful. Think big and you’ll reach the end of your life free of regrets.
If you find yourself living in constant doubt and fear to the extent that you cannot move forward in life, you’re not alone. Many people are overcome by timidity. This can lead to a life of mediocrity, if you let it. You don’t have to be cocky or self-confident to achieve great things in life. Simply learn a little more about how to be sure of your own purpose in life.
Your abilities and potential are not opinions; they’re facts. As we are all in some ways unique and in other ways similar, we each have potentials that can be continually developed into a set of abilities.
As you were created to use and thus develop your own abilities, you need not worry about measuring your worth by how far along you are. Instead, you should focus on how you can use whatever you have to benefit the people around you. It is not how good you are at doing things that will bring you joy; it is how well you use the abilities you have to help others that will be reflected in how much joy you experience.
Question Yourself to Know Yourself
If you don’t already know what it is you can enjoying doing with your life, you need to ask yourself some questions in order to take a personal inventory of your interests and abilities. If you don’t already know the answers to these questions, you need to explore them more deeply in order to know your purpose.
1. If failure were impossible, what great thing would you set out to do?
2. What have you daydreamed about doing with your life? What did you want to be in your youth? What have you always care about or had an interest in doing?
3. What do others think you’re good at doing? Are you confident of any of the things you’ve been praised for in the past?
4. What do you look forward to doing? What are your hobbies?
5. Are there certain things you want to be able to do better? Can you map a path of steps to be taken that will help you get better? Can anyone else help you get better?
When you can answer all of these questions, you should have a pretty good idea of the general direction of your life. Your purpose is not some sort of idealized fantasy but a general pathway that has been laid out for you by your own features. There is no need to fall into self-doubt, as you must simply move along that pathway, led by your developing abilities.
Act in Good Faith
Doubt is an emotion. It can creep up on you without a good reason. Everyone experiences doubt at various times. Success is sometimes simply a matter of ignoring doubt. You know what your skills are and you know what you want to do, so act on those skills and let the doubt resolve itself. The way you carry yourself forward with your purpose will inspire yourself and those around you.
Consider carefully how those who inspire you by their own purposes and mimic them. How do they pace their speaking? How loudly do they speak? What types of posture and movement do they exhibit when walking or talking? Doubt will eventually be denied simply by pushing forward in a purposeful manner.
Set Yourself Up with a Mentor
Find someone you admire that either has some similar abilities or a similar purpose. Model those things you admire. Allow yourself to make mistakes as a part of the process of getting better. The greatest success will generally be had if you can enlist the person you admire in the process as your mentor. You may have to swallow your pride to ask this of another person, but surprisingly few people can say no to an admirer.
The benefit of a mentor over simply someone you admire is that a mentor is available to answer questions you have and to give you insights into the approaches taken to get things done. Often just being able to ask procedural questions of a mentor will greatly cut down on your learning curve. Being able to understand what your mentor is thinking when making decisions allows you to benefit from your mentor’s experience. If nothing else, you’ll spend less time questioning your purpose and more time living by it because you have someone to guide you.
Being sure of your purpose is a necessary step to living confidently. When you know yourself, act upon what you know, and get guidance from others, you will be able to overcome any doubts and achieve what you were created to achieve.
THE SECRET [Unknown Author]
One day, one friend asked another,
How is it that you are always so happy?
You have so much energy,
and you never seem to get down.
With her eyes smiling, she said,
I know the Secret!
What secret is that?
To which she replied,
I’ll tell you all about it,
but you have to promise to
share the Secret with others.
The Secret is this:
I have learned there is little I can do
in my life that will make me truly happy
I must depend on God to make
me happy and to meet my needs.
When a need arises in my life,
I have to trust God to supply
according to HIS riches.
I have learned most of the time
I don’ t need half of what I think I do.
He has never let me down.
Since I learned that ‘Secret’ , I am happy.
The questioner ‘ s first thought was,
That’s too simple!
But upon reflecting over her own life
she recalled how she thought a bigger house
would make her happy, but it didn’t!
She thought a better paying job
would make her happy, but it hadn’t.
When did she realize her greatest happiness?
Sitting on the floor with her grandchildren,
playing games, eating pizza or reading a story,
a simple gift from God.
Now you know it too!
We can’t depend on people to make us happy.
Only GOD in His infinite wisdom can do that.
And now I pass the Secret on to you!
So once you get it, what will you do?
YOU have to tell someone the Secret, too!
That GOD in His wisdom will take care of YOU!
But it’s not really a secret…
We just have to believe it and do it..
Really trust God!
OK you have made it through last year, and you are now in a new year. What are you going to do in the new year. In order for you to go somewhere or better yourself, you must have a plan. You must set goals. Amy Twain has laid out some great thoughts on this matter take a look.
The Power To Empower Yourself
by: Amy Twain
A set of goals would empower you and you could then proceed to begin and follow your journey or voyage by setting your desired goals. Goal setting is indeed very necessary if you would like to empower yourself, as it is the initial step towards a more satisfying and fulfilling life. So to use personal empowerment to develop and further enhance your life, ample support from family, friends and relatives are essential and you need discipline as well to create and come up with the right and best decision in your life. Goal setting could be in the form of the achievable and the feasible and also, those which are not within your ability and your budget but that could be addressed later.
Personal empowerment will allow you to follow the dreams that are not within your means now. Take those small steps and set attainable and reachable goals within a brief time frame so that you would feel empowered when you accomplish them. Achieving goals become easier as you pursue and persist to empower yourself. You could take your time to experience your growth personally as it can be very empowering to aspire to move on and be more in life. There are several rewards you can reap to personal empowerment but you really need to think forward as goal setting would enhance your life for the better and likewise help you to attain more.
Inspiring moments are also helpful and it could enliven you more and move on to pursue and foresee more personal goals. As you pursue and reach every small goal, you can see positive and better changes in you and the succeeding set of goals become more and more challenging. You would begin to look forward to it and personal empowerment would form a life you truly desire and always dreamed about. Every personal growth would heighten and intensify your sense of power and ideas and ambition are no longer out of reach. You may also need to map out a group or team of action to handle with the several obstacles in life as they delay and postpone one’s progress.
Always bear in mind to keep pushing yourself and think positive at all times, as they can be so empowering. Get rid of the negative vibrations and feelings. It will take time, yet try to make it a routine to think more on a positive note. Turning negative into something optimistic is a good distinctive feature and never, ever giving up as endurance and perseverance and patient and tolerant in overcoming the many barriers and hindrances, and always looking forward is truly important to empower oneself. To create something out of your own life, there are myriad of ways out there but each begins with a small step.
To begin empowering yourself, you have to do things which truly interest you and along the way, you would be the person ever you will hold in high regard. Don’t stop empowering yourself because your personal empowerment and growth as a person will bring about self worth and positive image.
There is plenty of evidence that laughter is indeed a potent medication. It may seem difficult to laugh when you’re stressed, but once you start laughing, you’ll soon find that your stress levels quickly decline. As you begin to get a grip on your stress, you’ll gain the perspective you need in order to accomplish whatever it is you want to accomplish. Of just as great an importance, as you laugh away your stress, it’ll put far fewer burdens on your relationships with others.
Of course, there is more to good health than a sound mind. The peace of mind brought on by laughter quickly spreads throughout your body. Your muscle tension will begin to melt away as you leave the stress induced fight-or-flight responses behind and move into a state of normal body function. This allows your immune system to also move back toward optimal function.
Any type of overwhelming feeling can be overcome with a hearty laugh. Relaxing the tension behind the emotion allows you to fact-check the emotion and put it into a proper perspective. This may be particularly true when you are facing an overwhelming frustration or a burst of anger.
Healthy Laughter Tips
1. Make laughter a part of your daily morning routine. For the best possible result, make it a family activity. It’s very hard to maintain anger or frustration regarding someone with whom you share many good laughs.
If none of you are particularly good at making others laugh, you can always record a comedy show or sitcom that is appropriately funny for the whole family to watch together.
2. Figure out what senses of humor you have. What types of comedy are particularly funny to you? The more you practice laughing with videos, audios, and reading materials, the more aware you’ll become of what types of comedy strike you as particularly funny. You’ll gain a greater appreciation for family members as you learn about what sense of humor they have.
3. Spend as much of your social time as possible with people who enjoy laughter. You’ll quickly discover that those who laugh the most are often the happiest people. More importantly, laughter is catchy and you’ll soon find yourself laughing more and doing or saying more things that make others laugh.
Don’t be alarmed when you discover that you gain a different perspective on various peoples and ways of life as your worldview expands and you gain a greater appreciation of universal truths.
4. You must learn how to enjoy laughing at yourself. This is particularly challenging for those most in need of such a skill. When you’re able to laugh at your mistakes in life, you’ll also be able to take more corrective actions without counterproductive, harsh self-judgments.
5. Don’t be afraid to make others laugh too. It’s very difficult not to laugh when others laugh. The more you share those humorous things you witness or experience, the more you’ll find yourself laughing about them.
Humor is built into the world in which we live. Whether you’re laughing or not is purely dependent on whether or not you’re looking for the humor in life and allowing yourself the full enjoyment of it. The more you can laugh about life, the less stress will overwhelm you.
A sincere smile makes me seem approachable, even from a distance. People feel comfortable coming to me because they feel welcomed by my smile.
When I smile, I do it out of a genuine desire to inspire joy in everyone whom I encounter. My personal goal is for people to walk away from an interaction with me feeling happier than they were before we met.
The world can feel full of unpleasantness and fear, but my smile helps to generate hope. A negative attitude is all too common, and it pushes people away. To enjoy pleasant company, I refrain from giving in to negativity.
Wearing a smile on my face is a conscious choice I make every morning. I smile, not because life is perfect, but because I choose to see the positive in every situation. There is something to find joy in even in the toughest of times.
I make it my duty to find something to be cheerful about at all times. Instead of pushing people away with negativism, I draw them in with my smile.
My friends and family look up to me as someone whose presence they enjoy. They like to spend time with me because I smile. My positive attitude puts me in a position of influence over others.
Today, I choose to find a reason to smile. Whether it is because of a triumph, a lesson, or just the joy of living, I wear a bright smile on my face to inspire others to do the same. With my positive outlook, I am transforming my relationships, my community and my world.
1. Why should I smile today?
2. Why is it best to focus on the positive?
3. How does my attitude affect my relationships?
Discovering Inner Strength
Even though life can be a fantastic ride, sometimes it can also knock the wind out of your sails. When tough times trigger your insecurities, you can discover an inner strength that will get you through practically anything.
Try these ideas to get started:
1. Reflect on the tough times you’ve had before. Ask yourself how you got through it. What did you do? What did you think? What did you tell yourself? Your resilience will become evident as you do this exercise and give you real hope for the future in dealing with other obstacles.
• Recognize that you’ve made it through those difficult situations. Then think about what you’re experiencing right now. Is the current situation similar to or much different from your other tough times? Use what you’ve learned from your past challenges.
2. Learn to talk to yourself in positive, encouraging ways. This will help you build up your inner strength.
• As if speaking to your own best friend, tell yourself what will most help and encourage you. What do you most want to hear? What do you need to hear to help gather your strength? Is there something specific you’re hoping will happen?
• Practice providing yourself with encouraging, uplifting messages. The messages you give yourself can be less than helpful or they can propel you through the roughest of circumstances.
• Talking to yourself with respect, care and positivity builds your inner strength so it’s there when you need it. When the going gets tough, you’ll have yourself to fall back on.
3. Allow yourself time to think through whatever the situation is. It’s okay to feel confused.
• What are your ideas about how to weather the storm? Examine all the solutions you can come up with. Explain to yourself what you’ll do and how you’ll do it.
• A sense of your own resourcefulness can be found in your ability to problem-solve through challenging situations.
4. Consider who you regard as role models or mentors. You selected those people because you respect and admire them. They’re strong enough people that you want to emulate them.
• Think about their strength of character. How do you know they have it? What does that strength look like? How does it manifest?
5. Reflect on what you’ve done or been through that you’re most proud of. Was it making it through college although you had to work while you attended classes? Maybe it was moving out on your own for the first time and figuring out you could take care of yourself.
• Even though you might have felt afraid, uncomfortable, lost, or confused, you discovered your internal resources and made it through those experiences.
• When you examine what you did to handle those situations and how you made it through, you’ll recall your inner strength.
• You can get in touch with your own resourcefulness by re-visiting those events that bring you pride.
6. Sometimes, you’ve just got to “fake it till you make it.” You can probably recall a time when you felt afraid or weren’t sure you could succeed, but you stood up and met the challenge head on.
Discovering your inner strength is possible, even in the toughest of times. Following the steps above will help you discover your courage and resourcefulness. And with this self-understanding, you can handle anything!
What if people could discover alternative ways to resolve our differences and find peaceful activities that would bring out the best in everyone instead of the historic repeated pathways that have led to indifference, prejudices, violence, chaos and wars among us.
Wouldn’t it be exciting to think that possibilities exist so that people could access peaceful ways to resolve all our problems instead of resorting to violence and chaos that ultimately hurts everyone? We have learned from quantum research that there appears to be endless possibilities of reality.
Physicians, scientists and researchers are searching to understand consciousness and to locate our mind which appears to be not in our brain, as previously thought, but instead it is part of a vast network of oscillating waves and connections throughout the universe, and perhaps thousands of other unknown dimensions.
The quantum theories being developed from research and experiments in all fields of science are so incredibly mind blowing and seemingly complex that it is easy for the average person to ignore this astounding information. We go on about living our daily lives in which our limiting beliefs that have been cast into our perception and ways of thinking keep our minds closed and skeptical or indifferent. Therefore, our limiting beliefs continue to engineer and drive our habits, emotions, relationships, and health with similar patterns and outcomes.
Meanwhile a vast array of possibilities for renewal and human consciousness evolution awaits the awakening and acceptance of these possibilities so that humans can learn how to utilize these concepts to create a world of peace, prosperity and abundance for all.
For instance, one area of interest that affects people everywhere of all cultures, ethnic groups, governments, and religions is that of society and relationships. What if enough people were able to quiet our fears and opened our minds so that we were able to tap into expanding global consciousness solutions affecting our interactive relationships with one another that are based on underlying premises of love, harmony, kindness, joyfulness, giving and forgiving.
Though most scientific journals and articles are beyond the logical comprehension of human brain understanding, it is becoming clearer that these concepts are open to all people who choose to take the necessary steps to dissolve fears, open our minds to unlimited beliefs, and tap into that great “One Mind” of possibilities.
The mysteries of this great “Source” or “One Mind” are being revealed, and it remains a free choice of humans whether to seek and tap into this information for vast possibilities or to remain closed to these possibilities. Countless books, articles, films, etc. are available for inquiring minds that are changing the consciousness of people everywhere.
Since young we are told to study hard in school, get started and work hard with a respectful career over everything else so that we can have a happy life. We have been bombarded with this message throughout our lives and it has made a deep impact on all of us.
Most of us think that we have no other choice but to keep running on this track mill of life, just like the hamsters that simply go through the daily monotony with no questions asked. Then, we keep our dreams locked in the closet fearing that other people may not believe us or laugh at our “unrealistic” dreams. We want to fit ourselves into the image of being “normal”.
The good news is, we do not have to take the road that everyone takes. Many people have lost their jobs during this recent economic downturn. Now is the perfect time to pursue our dreams, to answer our inner calling. This inner yearning comes from deep within the core of who we really are as a person. Living this dream would bring us a genuine sense of well-being. When we do what we truly enjoy and believe, we live more in the present, feel happier and peaceful with ourselves and our surrounding. Though we may not make a lot of money with this new path, we will certainly enjoy it and live with no regret. The saddest thing in life is to ask “What if” at our deathbed, right?
The secret to happiness is to become courageous and follow what we truly want, that means to follow our hearts. If we have the talent and the ability to sustain that dream, then why not go for it? The world of today glamorizes certain lifestyle and careers, but reality says otherwise. We know things are just different from what we see in the movies. The key to enjoy life is to stand strong and not to live your life according to other people’s opinions. We have to let our inner strength take the wheel of our lives. If we don’t take control, other people will be most happy to run our lives for us. So, do not let the views of others affect our search for self-fulfillment.
We must also realize that following our dreams does not mean that we will always be happy and enjoy every minute of it. There will be times that we will be required to do things that we do not love. However, in the end we do get what we want. Life in itself is a surprise, and we often find ourselves being thrown a few surprises along the way.
Following our dreams also does not always mean that we will experience an overall sense of satisfaction, but this is far better than ignoring our inner cravings and putting them off until it never actually happens. On the road to fulfill our dreams may put us out of our comfort zone but we have to learn to cement our direction just to make ourselves truly happy with how our lives have turned out.
We must realize what kind of life we want ultimately. Though it requires conscious effort, but eventually, we get to spend the rest of our lives without regret. The seeds have been sown deep in our hearts and minds, and it is our job to reap the benefits of what we have planted. By following what we truly desire, not only do we fulfill our dreams and be happier, but we are also uplifting the spirit of the entire humanity!